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My coaches training included an exercise called Cosmic Flirts — being open to the notion that the universe may be sending you messages. How do we explain coincidence? You’re thinking about a friend, and suddenly she calls. Is there a connection? Our mind certainly wants to believe there is, and yet, there’s no scientific proof…

Carl Jung said that his idea of synchronicity really came together while dining with Albert Einstein, whose theory of relativity includes the notion that the whole universe exists simultaneously, that seeming separations of events & things are only due to our perspective, our relative location in the field.

For Jung, this was support for his idea of the collective unconscious, a connection that does not have to travel like an email or phone message or envelope does. Events can be connected, without conforming to cause/effect. And we can be connected without our minds acknowledging or understanding the connection.

In coaching, a client might keep a peripheral eye/ear open for flirts — small shouts out from the universe of coincidence — and we ask: What is that trying to tell you? What wisdom is there for you?

Its been said that real change happens in small ways, on ordinary days, at seemingly insignificant moments that perhaps only later we might label as a turning point. Jung believed that flirts (or winks, as he called them) were possible at boundary events — moments of great life transition, where turning randomly left rather than right may make all the difference in the world.

The real question is — What are we paying attention to? The thinking mind is one channel of information, like channel 7 on your TV. And there are others: the emotional channel, the flirt/wink channel, the body channel, the intuition channel, the ‘What your partner is really trying to say’ channel. Yoga and meditation are ways to switch the channel of attention, away from the mind to breath, to sensation. Just focusing on the Now seems to be useful.

So everyday, give your thinking mind some time off, and practice paying attention to something else — the sounds of silence, your breath, ask your body what it wants for lunch today. Really listen to your intuition for 5 minutes straight, without judgement or disagreement about what’s practical. What choices become available when we give attention to the parts of us that we don’t believe we control?

Why even ask these questions? Basic research and exploration, on the road to growth and innovation…

In case I haven’t mentioned it to you personally, I’ve been working more over the past few years as a life & performance coach. These skills are a great addition to my toolbox for facilitating better group creative process & workplace relationships.

Based on my training in Organizational & Relationship Systems, I’d like to extend an offer for a sample hour of coaching with you and any kind of partner (business, family, romantic, athletic, creative) to help you Design Your Alliance — literally, talking together about HOW you want to make things together, WHO you’d like to be while you’re building a life or business or team, and WHAT values are most important in your shared goals or vision.

The offer is for a sample hour. Click here for info about the one-day TDA workshop for ad agencies and their clients (or other business teams). TDA is also great work to do with agency creative teams, romantic couples, in families, etc.

Please give a call or email if you’re interested in exploring how TDA can improve your relationship & the process of making together…